Restraint or Domination over Self is the most powerful thing a man with power can achieve.
Men in power get a lot of opportunities to dominate others, to decide on proceedings, to showcase the full extent of their power. The desire to dominate is mostly a masculine energy:- a few women often have that will and opportunity but that is not the focus of this post.
Restraint is the highest level of the dominance hierarchy. Men we understand dominance all too well. Women “nurture” while men “dominate“. Be it in farming, living, working, on average that’s what happens.
It so follows then that the more power a man has, the more restraint he must exercise. What about the man with little to no power? Shouldn’t he act with little to no restraint? That often is the natural route men with little to no power take.
Lacking respect, lacking the littlest responsibility the man separated from a bit of power becomes emasculated. He becomes a menace to society, a menace to his family… this is why some men who lose their jobs become dysfunctional (alcoholics, gamblers, abusers etc). Can this man exercise restraint? Almost 100% NO, more so if he feels he has nothing to lose.
TLDR; Society needs to find a way to help the powerless man. Powerful men must restrain themselves and assist the dysfunctioning men.
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